Creating Compassion Mercy and Unconditional Love
To totally forgive either ourselves or another person unconditionally is one of life’s most challenging lessons. Even if our mind has the will to do so, forgiveness from this space is an academic exercise. We may want to forgive but find that it is impossible, so we do the next easiest thing – bury the experience deep in our mind. By archiving our emotion/s around the experience we assume that it is healed.
However, you will appreciate that it cannot every be forgotten, and the memory often arises again when similar events occur. We then repeat the cycle! It does not work but it is a coping mechanism. After all we have been taught to be nice, polite caring people so we should be able to forgive.
The above is based on the principle that we are willing to forgive, but there are times when it may feel impossible to forgive another person. We may feel victimised or perhaps we have been wronged or insulted in some way. Our values, opinions and beliefs may have been violated. Strong emotions usually surround such circumstances – anger, hate, rage, fear, etc. which create both inner and outer conflict.
- How can we forgive others in these circumstances?
- Should we forgive the other person?
- Would that mean that we are condoning what they have done?
These are useful and necessary questions to ask ourselves, as the answers can give us a deep insight into our own inner thoughts, values and beliefs about human behaviour and expectations. However, if you find yourself saying or thinking:-
“that you will never forgive the other person/s for their actions”
You are then setting up a Decree or Law by which you will live your future life. By doing this you create a permanent state of inner and outer conflict, with no chance of resolution. Take a moment to ask yourself how many times you may have said it.
Consider also if you are living by the decree of other people and their conflict/s. We do not enter the world as babies with inner prejudices. We must learn and inherit them from our parents, our culture and our history. In this way that which existed hundreds of years ago can still be alive and never forgiven or resolved. Do you want your children and grandchildren to repeat the same patterns?
Whilst it is challenging to forgive others – our biggest test is to forgive ourselves if we have “made a mistake” or “done something which is considered unacceptable” Feelings of guilt and shame can often make it so painful for us to even contemplate exploring and healing ourselves. Worse still what if the other person/s are unwilling to forgive us? Does this mean that the rest of our life is blighted by this experience?
Now guilt can be a useful emotion – it is a measure by which we often evaluate what is right and wrong and the consequences of our actions. Shame on the other hand is a much more powerful emotion – shame is a deep sense that we are not a worthy human being. That we are lesser than others, because of our actions.
Indeed, other people often look for these emotions in us to ensure that we understand just how awful our actions were. In other words, we deserve to feel “bad“. Society mirrors condemnation back to us.
We live in an ordered and structured planet, despite how it may appear to some. An important underlying principle is that “like begets like“. It is a basic law of life.
- Humans can only procreate humans
- cats can only procreate cats
- apple seeds can only grow apples
- condemnation can only create condemnation etc.
- love can only create love
If enough people condemn the actions of others it creates such a powerful energy projection to the person that it becomes almost impossible for them to change their behaviour. It’s like a glue which sticks to everyone involved.
True forgiveness is an action of our heart not the mind. Of course, our mind is important in the process, however the mind is a tool of the heart and when activated with the purest intention our heart becomes a threefold flame of:
Which creates a vibration of peace harmony and grace. This is the true essence of forgiveness. The process or alchemy of forgiveness must start within us before it can permeate out to others.
If you are a victim of another’s negative actions you may feel that this is not the right order. Why do we need to forgive ourselves before we forgive others if we are not to blame for what happened?
The truth is that many people have rejected this concept and may not feel ready to accept it in principle or in practice! Regardless of this it’s now time to find more empowering ways to act. It’s now time on this planet to question our beliefs, values, cultural norms etc. and to change those which cause conflict, pain, destruction, condemnation, war etc.
If like begets like, then forgiveness and love will create forgiveness and love. The legal and judicial systems within each country will take care of the physical retribution of the offence (provided they are fair and equitable). Our role is to forgive on all levels and change the consciousness of ourselves and others to a more empowering one.
When we forgive we can then see the potential within others. We must first see this potential within ourselves. You cannot fix other people; you can only fix yourself and as you do this you role model a way of being which acts like a catalyst within the consciousness of everyone we connect with.
Here are some steps to self-forgiveness
- accept that everything which happens to you has a meaning and purpose and is designed to help you learn and evolve
- take responsibility for your emotions and do not project blame onto the other person/s
- look inside and consider what needs to change/heal within you – perhaps values, ideas perceptions of self-worth etc.
- go into your heart centre and make the commitment to love this aspect of you unconditionally
- explore the positive aspects of any changes that you are willing to make
- implement the changes
- bless the other person for showing you something precious – if you wish you can call in your Angels and Guides to help you
- keep practicing the above steps until you feel love and gratitude for the experience
Forgiving the Other Person/s
- every time you think of the other person visualise them in a beautiful violet flame of transmutation
- if you find yourself judging them or talking about them – STOP – and focus on finding their positive qualities or attributes
- always remember that they are also a child of God learning and growing just as you are
- hold the vision of harmony and peace as a resolution
The highest level of love is open and available to you now. Learn to forgive and know that you will create peace harmony, community and oneness on this beautiful planet. Do it for yourself, do it for your family, your children, your grandchildren and the future of the world.
Below is a Forgiveness Decree that you can use regularly in conjunction with the above exercises. The more you practice the easier it becomes to forgive on all levels of consciousness. Then your life will be truly enriched.
I forgive everyone on all levels of
Light and consciousness
Beyond time and space
I ask for forgiveness from everyone on all levels of
Light and consciousness
Beyond space and time
I forgive myself on all levels of
Light and consciousness
Beyond time and space
Elizabeth Ann Morris